36 Questions to fall in love – XVIII

I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.

If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.

And if you just missed the last answer to question 17, you can find it here.

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Karma might work

On Monday, I was supposed to meet my mentee for the first time. We already set a date and time, but I needed to get vaccinated, and I wanted to do it before I fly to Chile. The vaccination however made it uncertain whether I will find the time to meet him.

Fortunately, it only took 30 minutes to get vaccinated, but I already felt my arm hurting and I was hesitant, if I should still go and meet him or not. I decided to write him and see, if he still wants to meet and two hours later he said yes. Again, I was already in the warm apartment of my parents and it was cold outside. Normally, the “perfect” excuse to ask to postpone the meeting. This time however, I decided to go out again and meet him.

We had a wonderful conversation over delicious food and tea and while speaking the sun came out as if to say: Stephan, you see what happens when you overcome your weaker self =). After our talk I had two more short but nice talks in a shop and when I got back, I met an old classmate, I had not seen in years. We had the same destination, so we could catch up and this was another lovely talk.

If I had not gone out, nothing of this would have happened (okay, maybe the sun would have come through, but maybe not in the area where my parents live). This let me think about the concept of Karma again. Sometimes, I have the feeling that when I do something good, and that is either unpleasant for me or takes effort, I will be rewarded somehow. The same is true for the other way around.

What do you think? Does Karma or something like this exist?

 

Have a wonderful day and take care!

Stephan

Macklemore – Same Love

As I got vaccinated yesterday, and lack energy, I want to share one of my most beloved songs: Macklemore – Same Love. Agreed, this track is not the newest, but still one of my favorites. It is about accepting who you are and who others are. It is about overcoming fear and it is about spreading love. Remember, love is universal and it something we all share. Love can unite us.

Much love from Berlin!

Stephan

What does self-love mean?

A few days ago, I logged into Facebook again. I don’t use it really and maybe every 3-4 weeks I just check it for a few minutes. That day it so happened that I saw a picture with a quote along the lines like “self-love is not candles and a hot bath, but a life you don’t want to escape from”. As I don’t want to swallow any quote that gets shared or reads nice, I took some time to reflect about it.

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36 Questions to fall in love – XVII

I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.

If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.

And if you just missed the last answer to question 16, you can find it here.

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Mindfulness in schools

As a frequent ready of this blog, you might know that I am a big advocate of mindfulness. I think it has the potential to change our lives drastically. I also should replace the “think” with ” I know from my own experiences”, but maybe more on this in another entry. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that I am in favor of including mindfulness in many aspects of our lives. Especially in our work. And what is work for children? School =)

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The struggle to find meaning

What is the reason or what are the reasons we face increasing numbers of people with depression, anxiety disorders, or people who want to or just do drop out of society altogether? Is the success we have as a society to blame? Does the fulfilment of most of our needs leads us to wanting more, without knowing what it is or how to get there?

I mean, it is important for me to find meaning in what I do. A couple of years back or even a couple of decades back, people had other things to worry about. So maybe it is a good sign, I and so many others are looking for something meaningful. I think that meaningful work is always related to making society better off. Be it a piece of art which conveys love or helps us to reflect or be it a hobby that brings not only joy to us but helps us to connect with others.

But maybe our current economic system or society didn’t match the same pace as our personal development in that society. Sometimes it can feel like being chained to a treadmill. We are moving, but we are not free to choose where we are going to. Many people work just to have enough money to provide for themselves and their families. Some might also work and get enough to spend it on a hobby. I don’t argue that some also draw tremendous joy and energy from their work, but I think that’s not the majority. You could say, well if you can find meaning in your hobby everything is fine. Again, for some, this might be true. However, many are sucked out of energy to find, commit to, or enjoy a hobby. Sometimes, we have so many hopes and wishes and energy, but after a long day at work, we are happy to just lie down and relax.

Sometimes, the only way out they see is to drop out. I know quite a few people who dropped out or are planning to, to find themselves or to travel the world. Often the purpose is to find meaning and a happy life. I think we need to help one another to achieve that. And I don’t accept that it has to be the way it is. So many people are left behind, although they want to do good, but they don’t know how, or don’t see this scenario as feasible to sustain a living.

I think a good first step is to talk to each other what provides us meaning. And then, not crushing those hopes, but rather finding solutions to get there. Many people live in abundance. I think there is no reason why we cannot use all that wealth to create a society that helps everyone to find meaning and be rewarded for that.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments below.

 

Have a wonderful day and take care!

Stephan

 

How do I deal with challenges?

During the last two days I facilitated a vision/mission workshop for 28 people. As you might guess, finding a common vision for 28 people is in itself a challenging task. In addition, there was a time constraint and a group which consists of sub-groups. On top of that, not all of them did know each other before and there was no time for a team building. All in all, a big challenge for me.

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