At times, it is good to have someone put a mirror into your face, that you can realize what you are doing. And although this might be difficult to accept, especially right at that moment, there are few things others can do to us to help us grow.
At the moment, I look through my old mails and writings. After a conference on (self-)leadership in 2016 (NaLDS = National Leadership Development Seminar), each month for a year, I sent out a mail to all participants and the whole conference team. It is interesting to read it again for myself and I think there is still some validity to it.
The initial question, I addressed in this mail was how to distance yourself from others or to teach somebody to respect you? This was a question from one of the participants. I adjusted the text a bit, but only slightly.
Change can be scary. But it is often not the change itself, but the uncertainty that comes along with it. How can I do this? Where do I find that? When will I get there? And so on and so on. It is like standing in front of a huge mountain. You have heard that the land behind has plenty of nice things, but you also don’t know for certain. You also don’t know if you will ever make it over the mountain in the first place. Instead of being pulled by the promises of the new and “holy” land, we are pushed back by our fears.
This is a question I ask myself more often in recent times. I mean overstrain in a mental and/or emotional way. And because I reflect back why my last relationship didn’t work out I am curious and try to figure out what I should change in the future.
Art has an enormous potential. It can calm us down, it can give us hope, and it helps us to better understand ourselves and others. And although my go-to-art is books, there are countless other types of art that inspire. There is one type in particular which can give relief: Kintsugi.
You might think that there is already a word for this called biography, but this is not what I mean. A biography is often written so that others can get to know you and your life. A book about yourself is also no diary. A diary is also a great way to understand yourself and your thoughts better. However, a diary is not aimed at figuring out more about yourself. It is more of a response to daily events. A book about yourself is directed solely at increasing your understanding of yourself.
In two days, I will dive into my winter vacation. It also marks the end of my project work in Switzerland. This means that I will be able to take a break. A break that is needed, but also a break that I need to spend wisely.
When was the last time you were truly silent for an extended period of time, during you did not sleep? Being silent can be scary and our monkey mind doesn’t like it that much either. Nevertheless, there are some ways how we can use silence to our advantage.
The term offensive line comes from American Football. The players forming the offensive line have one job: protect the quarterback. In our lives, it is almost impossible to do and achieve everything on your own. We all need an offensive line.
Bad days matter more than good days in the sense of how you show up and how you deal with that day.
I guess we all have dreams about our lives and what would make it wonderful. If you are like me, you might have big dreams at times and a lot of things you want to do and/or achieve. This entry is about one way to reach your goals: By starting small.
We all spend energy. Sometimes more, and sometimes less. At the moment, I know that everything I do costs me a bit more energy than usual. That is why it is even more important to know how I can recharge my batteries.
This entry is about how we should treat ourselves and others, and yes, that is not an easy topic.
With all the hero movies in cinema, I think it makes sense to think about who our heroes are in our daily lives. Two years back, I wrote somehting about one of my heroes.
A couple of years ago, I did something, I was skeptical about: Improvisation theatre. Continue reading “Improv(e) your social skills”
I mainly live inside my head and sometimes inside my whole body. This means I am always pretty close to everything I am doing. However, sometimes it makes sense to get an outside perspective. Of course, I can and do ask for feedback, but there is also something I can do on my own: Trying to observe myself through the eyes of someone/something else.
Sometimes, I tend to focus on the negative in my life. And although I understand that our brains are hardwired to give more attention to negative or “dangerous” issues, I also know that I can train my brain to see the positive in my life, at least as clearly as I can see the negative. The following short story by and about Ajahn Brahm, helps me to shift my perspective.
I think it is good to have an opinion. It means that you, at least, thought about the issue. Of course, you can have a wrong or better misinformed opinion. This entry will be about what it can mean to hold on to an opinion and why we sometimes do the wrong thing.