I guess you know him. Maybe you know him under a different name or even a different sex, but you met at least one of the family Van Doubts.
For the last three days, I was on a training to become a Design Thinking Coach. To take part in this training was one of my goals for this year, when I sat down at the end of last year to think about how I can turn my life into a more positive one again. Being exposed and having the opportunity to try out different Design Thinking (from now on DT) methods made me think where and when I can use this knowledge.
I heard this story years ago and was reminded of it a couple of weeks ago when I heard it in a series again. It is a story of a Chinese farmer and I take solace in hearing it.
This is the question I ask myself: How much time should I give myself?
The first question people tend to ask is: How are you? I am no exception. However, as one of the most frequently heard answers is a variation of “fine”, “good” or “okay”, we tend to over-analyze this answer. Sometimes we are just okay. Is this a problem?
I think there are good and bad questions. Or let me rephrase. There might be good times to ask a question and bad times.
What are your goals in life? This, or in a similar fashion, you might hear in job interviews, on a date, or reading a self-development book. They recommend us to set high, audacious, almost impossible goals. And, of course we set goals for ourselves, too. They can be small or big. The question is: What happens when you reached a goal?
When we listen to or watch the News, we might get the impression that the world is growing worse every day. We are faced with crisis here, wars there, and political decisions that make us question reality. It makes sense for news agencies. We are hardwired for negativity. From an evolutionary point this is important. But this, mainly one-sided, news coverage is also detrimental for the hope and the optimism in our lives.
We all have probably only this one life. And it is true, we are the main person who can decide its fate. However, I think we all know about an experience or situation which made us hesitate. We longed for change, but we didn’t do it. There are countless books, articles, and videos of people who want to motivate you to change. Their arguments can be valid, and you might feel that what you read or hear is making total sense, but you still can’t change or act. Sometimes, what we need might be the words: “I will support you” by an important person.
A creative way to express anxiety…
Several years ago, I attended a project management workshop. The workshop was very good, but there is only one thing I can still remember. At the very beginning, the facilitator used a method to help us relax and focus. I think those methods are a wonderful way to kick-start a meeting, or to reinvigorate a team after or during an intense day of work. A few years later, I browsed through the personal library of my professor and found a book which had a number of similar methods in it. One of my favorites is: The Pond.
There is this wonderful quote by Marianne Williamson with its line: “Your playing small does not serve the world.” Today, I took a minute to really think about this line and how I behave on a daily basis.
Yesterday, I started writing about happiness. To be more precise the difference between Hedonism and Eudaimonia, and what role they play in my life. Yesterday, I focused on Hedonism and today I will continue with Eudaimonia.
There is still a hype around happiness. Although it seems as if we navigate towards a more balanced approach (what I like =) ), there are many people who don’t dig deeper, what is meant by happiness, and who think that a hedonic approach is the way to go. In this entry I want to speak about the differences between Hedonism and Eudaimonia and what role they play in my life. Today I start with Hedonism and tomorrow, I will end with Eudaimonia.
If I want to grow and develop myself, I need to accept and embrace change. Change means that something has to die in order to make room for something else. Death is not a nice thing to think about it and we are often reluctant to accept changes. It is often even harder when it comes to changing ourselves. So how can I do this? How can I transform?
If you are at least remotely into electronic music or music in general, you might have heard of Avicii. His real name is Tim Bergling and he was a Swedish music producer and DJ. He became only 28 years. Another young artist dying way too early. This article is about my own reflections on a life that ended too soon and a life being famous.
Today I handed in my newly signed 80%-contract. It will start from the 1st of May. This is the end of a long thought process with a lot of hesitation, and it is also the start of an experiment.
This following quote is a letter from the book I am currently reading, called Oathbringer by Brandon Sanderson. It is something that floods my mind with memories and my body with emotions. For me it entails a truth, I am yet to find out how to best deal with.
Today, I thought a lot about my ex-girlfriend. My friend and I were driving for the most part through the country, just discovering new cities. This gave me plenty of time to think about her.
On Monday, I was supposed to meet my mentee for the first time. We already set a date and time, but I needed to get vaccinated, and I wanted to do it before I fly to Chile. The vaccination however made it uncertain whether I will find the time to meet him.
Fortunately, it only took 30 minutes to get vaccinated, but I already felt my arm hurting and I was hesitant, if I should still go and meet him or not. I decided to write him and see, if he still wants to meet and two hours later he said yes. Again, I was already in the warm apartment of my parents and it was cold outside. Normally, the “perfect” excuse to ask to postpone the meeting. This time however, I decided to go out again and meet him.
We had a wonderful conversation over delicious food and tea and while speaking the sun came out as if to say: Stephan, you see what happens when you overcome your weaker self =). After our talk I had two more short but nice talks in a shop and when I got back, I met an old classmate, I had not seen in years. We had the same destination, so we could catch up and this was another lovely talk.
If I had not gone out, nothing of this would have happened (okay, maybe the sun would have come through, but maybe not in the area where my parents live). This let me think about the concept of Karma again. Sometimes, I have the feeling that when I do something good, and that is either unpleasant for me or takes effort, I will be rewarded somehow. The same is true for the other way around.
What do you think? Does Karma or something like this exist?
Have a wonderful day and take care!