The process is always a b#&%$

Hi there. I hope you are feeling great!

When do we feel great? Sure, when we are happy. But when we dig a little deeper, we will often see that the reason we feel great is because we accomplished something. We worked hard towards a specific goal.

The realization that we feel great should be followed by another realization: that we probably suffered along the way. No greatness without blood, sweat, and tears. And even if you don’t feel great now, this should give you comfort. Maybe you are in the middle of the process. But the suffering will be worth it. And you can also find comfort that you are not alone in your suffering. It is just a part of the process.

I know this myself. And I also know that there were times when I couldn’t see greatness at the horizon (not that I am saying I reached my goal already :D, I am pretty much struggling from time to time). And the only reason I was reminded was because it was a part of a book I read. That is why I love reading books. They remind me about big and simple truths.

The following excerpt is from The Death of Dulgath by Michael J. Sullivan.

Usually to make something truly great, you need to start from scratch. You need to break everything down, strip away the impurities and it takes great heat to do that, but once you do, then the building can start. The result can seem miraculous, but the process – the process is always a bitch.

What might this include? Well, it can be about forgiveness. Forgiving yourself or others. It can be about acceptance, about letting go, about being vulnerable, about being honest, about change or about ________________ (fill in your struggle).

But what would be the other possibility? To remain in a position of comfort, but not feeling great? On aggregate, this would be more suffering than starting the process. Sure, it is not as intense, but there are also no benefits to be reaped. So, let’s “enjoy” the process and maybe you can repeat after me with a little smile on your face:

The process is always a bitch.


Take care, Stephan


One Comment Add yours

  1. Love it! It’s such a good reminder to keep going 😊 thank you!


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