I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 32, you can find it here.
Question #33 reads as follows:
“If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?”
Hmm this is going to be a short article. Maybe I would tell my parents and sister how much I love them, but I have written about it in this blog and I also told them to their face. Not recently, but nothing has changed in this regard.
Sure, there are still things I’d wish I could speak about with my ex-girlfriend, but also there I am fine and think I told her the most important things.
I think this is due to the fact that I want to speak about the important things soon. Not necessarily the moment the situation or thought arises. Sometimes, I also need my time before I want to, or I am brave enough to talk about it. I mean those things we probably regret most are somewhere related to being vulnerable. I know that showing vulnerability towards others, especially those who mean a lot to us, is difficult at best and horrifying at worst. I needed to learn that, too.
Still, let’s hope I am not going to die tonight :D.
What would you regret most not having told someone? Why haven’t you?
Take care, Stephan