I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 23, you can find it here.
Question #24 reads as follows:
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
My mom is, besides my sister, the person I call when I have a problem or want to talk about something. They say that boys are often more similar to their mothers and girls more similar to their fathers. What I can tell from my family might support this claim. Not in all detail, but there is definitely a tendency.
I feel very connected to my mom. Of course, we also have our arguments and things we look at differently, but that is normal. And sure, we also had our problems and maybe there are still things that are standing between us. What I like is that we can have meaningful conversations and I like how she always tries to understand my point of view. I am also grateful for her opinions even if I don’t always follow her advice.
We talk probably once a week and sometimes even more. Not long, but it is good to know how she and my dad are doing. She also sometimes serves as a mediator between my dad and I and I am grateful for that, too.
They also say that men often look for women who are similar to their mothers. I am aware of that and I would lie if I say that is not true for me. However, I don’t want my girlfriend to be exactly like my mother and I definitely want her to be my mother. That thought alone is scary and not something I want.
Still, I love my mom and I am glad for the relationship we have.