I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 22, you can find it here.
Question #23 reads as follows:
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
Hmm, it is always difficult to compare families. There are always good and bad times and even with good friends, problems within the family are rarely discussed. So, my answers to those questions is biased by what I experienced and heard.
I think our family is very close. We more or less know about the most important things happening in our lives. We have two family WhatsApp groups, where we share pictures and news. Of course, not everyone is talking to each other all the time, but we make sure that important things are carried forward. I think we also really care about our family. Sometimes, we might even think too much about it.
I’d also say that our family is rather warm. Family celebrations and events are always something I look forward to. We support each other as best we can, and we are patient and understanding with each other.
I consider my childhood as pretty happy. In general, my family is something that gives me a lot of strength. When I remember my childhood, I automatically think about all those trips to Hungry where we camped at lake Balaton. I remember fishing with my dad, playing countless hours of a card game or Yahtzee with my parents and sister, I remember making a lot of fun with my sister (okay, we were already older then^^), and I remember my parents and especially my dad driving me to probably all soccer fields in Berlin and beyond. I am very grateful for my childhood, and yes, I think that in comparison to other people, my childhood might have been happier.
It is also something that is important to me when it comes to a relationship. I want that my family likes my girlfriend (which is not really hard =)) and I also want that I get along with her family, too. Having friction and problems with the families can be huge burden on a relationship.
How close and warm is your family? And do you consider your childhood as a happy one?
Love and hugs, Stephan