I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 21, you can find it here.
Question #22 reads as follows:
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
Well, as I don’t have a partner, I thought about who I will choose. There are a lot of people, but I will take my sister, as she is one of the most important people in my life. And you have to accept that there is no alternation 😛
Where to start. I think that one of her best characteristics is that she is taking care of the family. She is always interested what the member of our family are doing and how they are. I mean she is already looking forward to inviting everyone into her house for Christmas to celebrate together. She has always an open ear and sometimes I think she thinks more about others than herself.
That is also the reason why she is so good at her job. She is very professional in what she is doing and that is why she has been fairly successful. As she has to conduct several interviews and conversation with other employees, she is as good as she is because they can feel she cares. And she knows what she is doing.
The third one is her determination. She didn’t study before she started working. However, some years into her work, she decided she wants to do more. She did her studies in the evening while working regularly at her job for 40 hours a week. Ans she did that for 2-3 years. She knows exactly what she wants and has a solid plan how to get there. Of course, she has her doubts, but the way she has created her life is impressive.
She is very funny. There are countless memories of us laughing so hard that we had trouble to breathe. When my sister starts laughing, I can start laughing although it is not funny, but her laughter is contagious =).
The last thing is that I can have very honest and open conversations with her. We know about our failed relationships and the struggles we face, and it is very good to know that I can tell her anything without the fear of being judged.
What are the five characteristics you value in your partner? Let him/her know =)
Hugs and love, Stephan