36 Questions to fall in love – XXI

I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.

If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.

And if you just missed the last answer to question 20, you can find it here.

Question #21 reads as follows:

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

They both play a huge part in my life. Maybe I give them too much weight and/or attention though.

I want to spread a lot of love to others and the people who know me well know that I am a loving person. I always try to speak to other people from a point of love. Sure, it is not always working, but I do try. I also try to love unconditionally. Again, this is also easier said than done. I am convinced that loving someone or something can create incredible amounts and feats of beauty. I also think that love and understanding are related. If I love something. I am willing to understand it or he or she. Also, only if I try to understand can I truly love someone or something.

Also, affection is very important to me. Especially in a relationship. The person I love, I want to hug and be close to and show and receive affection. At the moment, that is something I do miss a lot. Just lying next to each other and holding each other is something I take a lot of energy and peace from. And yes, also sex is something that is very important to me and is something I miss. But it is also interesting to see how I go again without it.

In the beginning I said that I might put too much weight on love, especially romantic love and affection. I feel this void right now, but it might also be a good time to learn to live with this void. I made the mistake to focus only on the fact that I didn’t have it and it influenced all aspects of my life in a negative way. I am still learning to have a more balanced and healthy relationship with love and affection in my life.

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

 

Have a wonderful day and take care!

Stephan

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