I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 19, you can find it here.
Question #20 reads as follows:
What does friendship mean to you?
A lot. The end. =)
Just kidding =)
If you ask 100 people, probably about 90 of them will say something along the lines of family and friends. I think that demonstrates how important friends are to our lives. Do we always act like it? I think not, but there are, at times, understandable reasons for that.
But to give something meaning, it is necessary that I can define it. So, how do I define friendship? A friend to me is someone who takes me for the person I am. Including my good and my bad traits. A friend to me is someone who tries to understand. A good friendship can overcome time and space. I have a very good friend who I didn’t see in almost three years, and after we met again it was as nothing has changed. Good friendship can also mean that you don’t talk every single day. If a friendship is worth it, both will try to catch up with one another. Only if just one person tries to sustain the friendship might it be time to reflect about the friendship.
Friendship means to me to have a link to an outside perspective. A good friend tells me his or her thoughts, even if I don’t like to hear it. A good friendship can provide context to everything that is happening in the world. A good friendship can inspire me to become someone better and it can make me humbler.
A good friendship is like a safe haven. I don’t always need to anchor there, but I know that if a storm is coming or already raging, I can find a save place here. Moreover, a good friendship cannot be a one-way street. It is with every good and sustainable relationship. You have to give and receive to make it work.
I like the following video by The School of Life and why it can be advantageous to be “just a good friend” and therefore the benefits of friendship.
What is friendship to you?
Have a wonderful day and take care!