Life is neither constantly happy, nor constantly bad. We have mixed days that feel like a ride on a rollercoaster, and we have also days that I describe as “empty”. For me those are days during which nothing can really excite me. I think it is normal to have them from time to time. I also think that it is good to have a way to deal with them, as well.
I think empty days come after an intense or stressful time. Sometimes, empty days can also be a sign of a lack of meaning, or a lack of a personal vision. I mean, I do have a vision, but maybe it is not strong enough or not precise enough to prevent those days.
This means, I can either work on my vision, and mission, and action steps, which I’d say is the preferred way of dealing with such a day. On the other hand, I know that this takes time and energy. And maybe you don’t have time during the day or you lack the energy in the evening. I can understand this and there are times when we feel more motivated and have more time to deal with those questions.
So, what to do, if you don’t have time?
It is easy to get into a downward spiral, thinking that nothing works, and feeling sad, empty, and down. I can speak from my own experience. It is not a nice feeling, and it is not a nice day. My way of dealing with it is to just accept it. If I try to fight it without having the energy to really change something (like working on my vision etc.), I use up my energy faster than I can generate new energy. What I do instead is to observe my thoughts. Can I tell where in my body do I feel this sense of emptiness? And what pictures or thoughts arise in my mind while doing this?
I also try to plan things I am looking forward to doing this day. For me, it can be reading a book, or watching a movie, or meditation. Also, as I said before, I try to accept my feeling and I won’t fight it, if I don’t know how, or if I lack the energy to do so. See it is a kind of energy-management. I focus my energy on my job and on observing my thoughts and feelings. This helps me to make a potential bad day into a normal day, or at least one I can cope with. And, if I am lucky, I will realize something about myself, too. This could actually make it a good day, though only in hindsight.
How do you deal with those days? What helps you? Let me know in the comments below.
Have a wonderful day and take care!