I think it is only fair that you get to know me a little bit better to understand how I think and how my brain works in order to put my writings into perspective and to draw your own conclusions. This is why I, once about every ten days, answer one of the questions from the New York Times question series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love.
If you want to start at the very beginning, you can find question 1 here.
And if you just missed the last answer to question 15, you can find it here.
Question #16 reads as follows:
What do you value most in a friendship?
What I value most in a friendship is the willingness to listen. And I mean really listen. I think you know the feeling when someone is really listening to you and tries to understand you. You probably also know when someone isn’t. With this comes the willingness to try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
A part of it is also not to be judgemental. This doesn’t mean, I don’t want to know their opinion, if I did something wrong. However, you can judge someone for doing something wrong, or you can try to understand and help him or her to see the mistake and change it.
There are of course a lot of other factors I value a lot, but this one is probably the most important to me. At least at the moment.
What do you value most in a friendship? Let me know in the comments below.
Have a wonderful day and take care!