Today’s blog post is inspired by yesterday’s one. In yesterday’s entry, I answered the question whether I have a secret hunch about how I will die. And yes, today’s entry will also be about death. At least partially. And no, my blog doesn’t take a dark turn =)
Especially in the western hemisphere, we have a typical way of dealing with someone who died. We have a funeral and we mourn a lot. Everyone is dressed in black or dark clothes and the whole procedure is filled with silence.
I mean I understand it to a certain degree. We lost someone who is dear to us and we remember all the beautiful moments we spent with that person. We will miss that person dearly and wish he or she could still be around. And I also understand the need to mourn. It helps us to get over a difficult period or incident. In general, funerals are not for the dead, but for the living.
What do I wish for my funeral?
Of course, it might be difficult to wish for the exact opposite. People will cry and miss me (hopefully^^) and they might have the need to cry. That is totally okay. Though I’d like them to have a somewhat different funeral event. I want them not only to mourn my death but to celebrate my life and their life. I want them to wear very colorful clothes and to have positive music and a lot of laughter. I don’t mind, if they change from laughing to crying and back again. But, I want them to focus on the positive memories. If they want to honor my memory, then I want them to celebrate life. I want them to be happy and to say goodbye to me in a positive way. Including dancing, laughing and sharing stories.
I know it might be difficult. Especially when this way of handling death is deeply ingrained in our culture. Maybe I can demand that of them in my last will? =) No, but honestly, I would like them to use this event for something positive. It is not often that family and friends come together. Please spend the time with celebrating life!
Do you have a wish how your funeral should look like?
Have a wonderful day and take care =)