Yes, it is this time again =)
Today I am going to answer the sixth question from the series: 36 Questions – How to fall in love, which was published by the New York Times.
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The question is:
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
This question is difficult to answer. I mean I have a clear answer, but it was not easy to choose. But let us start with defining some parameters of the question, because I asked this question several times already and there are always some clarifications necessary how we understand the questions. I understand that when I retain the mind of a 30-year-old, I age normally but have the sharp mind of me being 30. When I keep the body of a 30-year-old, it means that my mind will lose its power over time. So, the whole: healthy-mind-and-healthy-body is not working. So, I can’t have both.
My answer is to retain the mind of a 30-year-old and I will explain why. But why do I even think about keeping the body of a 30-year-old instead? Well, as I am still young my thoughts about this are definitely biased. One reason is being able to move and be active. Often, when we get older we have more pains and being active takes more effort. I think I don’t value my own energy and agility enough. Only if it is gone do we realize what we had. I know that even 80-year-old people did run a marathon or even finished an iron man or are active in a different way. I mean this will always be my choice. But in general, our bodies get weaker over time and losing the ability to move freely without pain will be something I miss. Another point is superficial. It is that a body of a 30-year-old is more attractive than that of a 90-year-old, at least how I see it now =). Being still young, this is a factor which is important to me. I try to stay in shape to be physically attractive for my partner.
However, there are other factors that attract me to a woman. And those will be more important over time. This is also the reason why I would like to retain the mind of a 30-year-old. I like to think and to reflect. No, I love to do it. Sometimes it can be to my own disadvantage, but I like to analyze situations and I try to solve this puzzle called life. Furthermore, I am energized by learning something new, by new ideas and by interesting discussions. Acquiring new knowledge and connecting it to what I learned so far is a key contributor to my life mission of helping people to understand themselves and others. Losing that ability would be more difficult for me than losing my agility. Although, you might argue that, when I lost my mind, it won’t bother me, because I don’t realize it. That is also what I value a lot in my partner. Having interesting conversations. Sometimes they are funny, sometimes they are deep and thoughtful, sometimes they are emotional, and sometimes they broaden my horizon. Physical attraction will disappear over time. But with an intelligent woman I can fall in love over and over again.
How would you answer this question? Let me know in the comments or write me a mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Have a wonderful day and take care =)